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mariasmum
Joined: Sat Sep 03, 2005 8:19 pm Posts: 653 Location: Auckland
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family letting me down again
Tomorrow is Maria's 2nd birthday and last Monday we asked my Mum & Dad if they will join us for lunch for her day. We asked them to their faces and they just sat there and didn't reply. Then on Wednesday Mum told me that they'd have to look at their diary and check if they were busy, and she'd get back to me.
So far she hasn't got back to me.
I feel so let down, it's bad enough that they hardly talk to us about Maria, let alone the fact that they should know that 9 June is her birthday! They shouldn't have to "look at the diary" to find out if they are too busy to support us on the saddest day of the year. Last year they were overseas and didn't even contact us on the day (and I had reminded them!)
I feel really down in the dumps today, this was the day I found out that she had died. It never really gets any easier does it?
I am making a caterpillar cake for Maria for tomorrow, and we'll get 2 helium balloons to let go off the top of the hill where her ashes are scattered. I am determined to make tomorrow a celebration of her short life and our love for her so to hell with my family!
(GRRR... can you tell I'm angry?!)
_________________ Alana
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Fri Jun 08, 2007 3:25 pm |
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TrinityClair
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Joined: Sat Jul 16, 2005 3:01 pm Posts: 1689 Location: Auckland
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Thats aweful Alana, I don't understand how people can be so apparently uncaring, least of all family. If they hadn't been reminded and aksed to come to lunch you could almost understand nothing being said due to being unsure what to say, but having an open invitation......confusing.......totally understandable that you are angry. Sounds like you have similar plans to us for Trinitys second.
I hope the day is gentle on you and goes smoothly.
HAPPY HEAVENLY BIRTHDAY LOVELY LITTLE MARIA
I hope you have a wonderful party with all your angel friends
HUGS Alana, Angus, Joel and Julia
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Fri Jun 08, 2007 3:40 pm |
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angelbaby
Joined: Wed Jul 20, 2005 10:44 pm Posts: 1117 Location: Auckland, NZ
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Big Big Hugs to you Alana.
You think family, close family at that would be more understanding.
Your celebration for Maria sounds beautiful and I hope the day goes lovely for you.
Will be thinking of you and your family tomorrow.
HAPPY HEAVENLY BIRTHDAY MARIA
Hugs
Jacqui
_________________ DD Tylar 10
Angel Riley Born Sleeping, 38wks
14 angels M/C
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Fri Jun 08, 2007 8:10 pm |
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BeesNees
Joined: Fri Sep 30, 2005 10:00 pm Posts: 653 Location: NZ
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Hugs Alana I'm really not sure what to say about your mum and dad. Your post made me really sad
So.... I wrote Maria another poem. Just a short one I promise...It's late too
Happy Birthday Maria
Happy Birthday Maria
An angel who's two
Our Lost Ones family
Sends kisses to you
Mummy's shared your first photo
For us all to see
A cake, two balloons
And a party there'll be
I hope up in heaven
You'll look from above
And watch your sweet mummy
Remember with love
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Sat Jun 09, 2007 12:37 am |
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TrinityClair
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Joined: Sat Jul 16, 2005 3:01 pm Posts: 1689 Location: Auckland
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Oh Claire, you and your tearjerking poems, gets me every time.
Thinking of you today Alana.......
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Sat Jun 09, 2007 10:04 am |
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Sunshine
Joined: Wed Jul 20, 2005 9:53 pm Posts: 265 Location: Auckland
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Happy 2nd Heavenly Birthday Maria Grace
Alana & family.....
I hope you have a lovely family celebration for Maria. Will be thinking of you all as I know all of your LostOnes family will.
Hugs
Rae
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Sat Jun 09, 2007 10:49 am |
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Kim
Joined: Fri Jul 15, 2005 8:43 pm Posts: 1315 Location: Whatawhata, Hamilton
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Happy Heavenly 2nd Birthday Maria
Alana, I hope you and the family have a lovely day remembering your precious little girl today.
Forever in my heart and thoughts.
Huggles
Kim
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Sat Jun 09, 2007 11:10 am |
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Dragonfly
Joined: Mon Sep 18, 2006 11:30 pm Posts: 666
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Happy 2nd Heavenly Birthday Maria!
Alana, I hope the weather is nice for you today.
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Éloïse
my angel Chloé
Aidan
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Sat Jun 09, 2007 12:01 pm |
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Lisa
Joined: Tue Nov 08, 2005 10:47 am Posts: 1106 Location: Auckland
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Happy Birthday Maria!
Thinking of you sweet heart and your Family.
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Sat Jun 09, 2007 12:20 pm |
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nicoles mom
Joined: Sat Jul 23, 2005 8:08 am Posts: 716 Location: Caribbean
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Happy Birthday Maria!
Big Hugs Alana,
Jenn
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Sat Jun 09, 2007 12:39 pm |
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Julia's Mum
Joined: Thu Dec 14, 2006 3:08 pm Posts: 1708 Location: Rotorua
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HAPPY HEAVENLY BIRTHDAY MARIA
Alana and family ny thoughts are with you all today, hope the day went okay for you. You are in our hearts and in our thoughts.
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Sat Jun 09, 2007 6:03 pm |
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lizzielou
Joined: Tue Aug 02, 2005 11:05 am Posts: 278 Location: new Plymouth
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Happy birthday Maria
Hope it was gentle on you all today.
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Sat Jun 09, 2007 7:23 pm |
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mariasmum
Joined: Sat Sep 03, 2005 8:19 pm Posts: 653 Location: Auckland
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Thank you everyone for your understanding and your thoughts. Well mum & dad did come, they let us know late Friday night that they would be joining us. It was good to have them there although they didn't actually mention Maria at all to us. Nick & Claire from Sands with their baby Zoe also joined us and it made it so much easier being with people who really do understand what it's like. We had beautiful weather and managed to climb the hill where Maria rests.
Two funny coincidences happened to me. On Friday, I realised that I was wearing the same jersey that I had been wearing exactly 2 years ago when I found out that Maria had died. On Saturday morning, Julia woke at 5am (which she NEVER does) which was exactly the same time that I had woken that morning before going to hospital to be induced.
Here are some photos of Maria's caterpillar cake, and of us letting off a balloon for her.
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Sun Jun 10, 2007 3:12 pm |
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Julia's Mum
Joined: Thu Dec 14, 2006 3:08 pm Posts: 1708 Location: Rotorua
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Alana, I'm glad that everything went well for you.
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Mon Jun 11, 2007 4:50 pm |
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angelbaby
Joined: Wed Jul 20, 2005 10:44 pm Posts: 1117 Location: Auckland, NZ
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I'm so glad Maria's birthday was a beautiful occasion.
Thank you for sharing your photo's, the cake is awesome, Maria is very lucky to have such a wonderful mummy.
Hugs
Jacqui
_________________ DD Tylar 10
Angel Riley Born Sleeping, 38wks
14 angels M/C
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Mon Jun 11, 2007 9:27 pm |
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Dragonfly
Joined: Mon Sep 18, 2006 11:30 pm Posts: 666
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Thanks for posting pics!! They're lovely. So glad the weather was nice for the balloons. The cake is gorgeous.
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Éloïse
my angel Chloé
Aidan
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Tue Jun 12, 2007 10:45 am |
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TrinityClair
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Joined: Sat Jul 16, 2005 3:01 pm Posts: 1689 Location: Auckland
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Thanks for sharing Alana, looks like you had a lovely day, love the cake, very cute.
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Tue Jun 12, 2007 11:16 am |
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