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Dragonfly
Joined: Mon Sep 18, 2006 11:30 pm Posts: 666
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Life update.. :(
About 2 months ago now, DH and I had a yelling match (he was feeling betrayed I'd been venting and ranting on a public forum about private stuff and read and printed all my posts from EBB (most of the ranting was done on a PM though)) followed by a discussion and we agreed that it was time to face the fact that we were over. We're still sharing the house but sleeping in separate rooms. There was little point in arranging a rental house and getting on the benefit for 3 months, which would have meant wasting money since I'm flying to France in April with the kids (and coming back to live in NZ). We're still civil and kinda friendly to each other and I am pretty sure we both feel immense relief to know where we're going. We've both been told by different people that we looked happier now than in recent months. All that tension was destroying my soul. Yes it's a mutual decision and we're both determined to keep things amiable because it's better for the kids this way. We've been going to counselling to work out a parenting agreement and I've been talking to a lawyer and she's drafting a letter for the man and working out a buyout figure. I can't afford this house so he's buying me out. When I get back from my nice holiday in my home country, I'll be moving out with the kids and finding a house to rent and a part time job too. See? I have *plans*!! Also, adding to my tattoo on 31 March. That's a back to front pic (thanks PhotoBooth) of a slap on tattoo Eloise gave me but it kinda shows what I'm getting. 2 butterflies, one for Eloise and one for Aidan above Chloe's sunflower. Not sure what colours to get, I was thinking pink and yellow for Eloise and blue and yellow for Aidan, the yellow linking them to the sunflower and Chloe.
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Éloïse
my angel Chloé
Aidan
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 4:16 pm |
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Vanessa
Joined: Sat Oct 18, 2008 3:41 pm Posts: 63 Location: Wellington
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Re: Life update.. :(
Hey, Such a sad update yet a beautiful ending. I think that the way you are both handling it is really good. Its a lot easier to be civil when there are children involved. The yellow on each of the tattoos are very special and a great way to link them subtley. I think thats great yay you.
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 4:29 pm |
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queenbean
Joined: Tue Mar 25, 2008 9:18 am Posts: 449
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Re: Life update.. :(
I'm really glad you and DH have come to an agreement which suits you both and is good for the kids Lauriel, I love the idea of the colours for the butterfly tattoos, I think that will look lovely.
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 5:33 pm |
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Lisa
Joined: Tue Nov 08, 2005 10:47 am Posts: 1106 Location: Auckland
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Re: Life update.. :(
Sorry I have been down and of lin, Just know I Love ya and some how it works out. Will get in touch real soon. Loves
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 8:12 pm |
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Satori Star
Joined: Tue Jan 29, 2008 12:50 pm Posts: 708 Location: Auckland
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Re: Life update.. :(
Hey Lauriel,
It sound like it has been a tough year for you so far, although I am glad that you have both gotten to a happier place through it.
Thinking of you and love the Tattoo idea - it'll look great and hold alot of significants (sp)
Yvonne
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 9:03 pm |
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*lynne*
Joined: Mon Jul 18, 2005 8:39 pm Posts: 771 Location: dunedin
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Re: Life update.. :(
hugs hun! Sorry to hear things got blimmin rough. Yah for holiday soon aye. And what a lovely thought about the tattoo...love it
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Fri Mar 13, 2009 9:34 pm |
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Julia's Mum
Joined: Thu Dec 14, 2006 3:08 pm Posts: 1708 Location: Rotorua
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Re: Life update.. :(
aw sweetie that sucks that things havent worked out for you and DH, although glad to hear that you and he have come to a arrangement that suits everyone. Wicked idea for the tatts too.
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Sat Mar 14, 2009 10:34 am |
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mariasmum
Joined: Sat Sep 03, 2005 8:19 pm Posts: 653 Location: Auckland
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Re: Life update.. :(
Hey there, sorry to hear that things have ended with you and DH but I am glad that you are in a positive frame of mind. I really hope that your time in France is just what you need it to be (am glad you are coming back!). The tattoo idea is very cool! big hugs!
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Sat Mar 14, 2009 3:20 pm |
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smurf_girl
Joined: Tue Sep 02, 2008 12:02 am Posts: 123
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Re: Life update.. :(
Aww that does suck, but at least for he kids you can make it work.
Let me know when you are back from France. I am making quite a few trips to Wanganui now so we should try and catch up one of those days (if you are going to stay there).
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Andrew (23/04/04) Joshua (14/02/07) our little valentine and an angel in heaven (20/10/01)
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Sat Mar 14, 2009 3:53 pm |
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debs
Joined: Tue Nov 11, 2008 7:10 pm Posts: 224
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Re: Life update.. :(
sorry to read your post but i hope that you trip away will be really good for you and that things go well for you when you return. Love the tattoo idea
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Sat Mar 14, 2009 10:05 pm |
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Dragonfly
Joined: Mon Sep 18, 2006 11:30 pm Posts: 666
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Re: Life update.. :(
Thanks girls! I love you all! Becks, yes, coming back to Wanganui (and not leaving until 20 April, you're in town before then??). Right, it's 2am again and I should get to bed...
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my angel Chloé
Aidan
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Sun Mar 15, 2009 2:13 am |
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TrinityClair
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Joined: Sat Jul 16, 2005 3:01 pm Posts: 1689 Location: Auckland
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Re: Life update.. :(
Oh hun, still sad, but glad it's all amicable, take care and enjoy your trip to France. Great idea for the tattoo, I might get one for Trinitys 4th b'day. Luv'n'hugs.
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Sun Mar 15, 2009 8:05 am |
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AngelaKate
Joined: Mon Nov 17, 2008 1:17 pm Posts: 79 Location: Wellington
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Re: Life update.. :(
Sorry to hear of your news. All the best for your future and enjoy your trip to France.
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Sun Mar 15, 2009 1:16 pm |
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~*Telly*~
Joined: Thu Jul 14, 2005 8:06 pm Posts: 1455 Location: Auckland
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Re: Life update.. :(
honey i'm so sorry to hear that things ended up here hope you enjoy your trip to france! ((hugs))
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Sun Mar 15, 2009 3:40 pm |
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mrssloppers
Joined: Sat Sep 16, 2006 5:16 pm Posts: 169 Location: Hamilton
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Re: Life update.. :(
Sweetie, Its hard when a realtionship comes to an end when you have shared lots of joy and heartache along the way. We are here for you anytime you need us. If you ever find yourself in the Naki let me know would love to see you sometime. You know where I am if you ever need a shoulder to lean on.
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An Angel in the book of life wrote down my baby’s birth and whispered as she closed the book "too beautiful for the Earth"
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